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Im really not a complex young man. I like to read, I must admit that I am partial to those books written by African American. But, I am open to suggestions of othere books that I could read. Music and Poetry are my other loves. R&B I must say is my favorite, followed by rap, gospel, and even some Rock. Like most men my age, I also am a Football Fan, both actual and on Madden. I'm From Cleveland, OH so I am a CAVS, and Browns fan. Watch you mouth! Other than That I spend time with my Family
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Saturday, July 23, 2005
Well its official, 7 months after saying "I Do" to my beuatiful wife, I am going to be a father. In this day and age, being 28 years old and have no children, that might come as a shock to some. There have been occasions where the possibility was there but, as far I know <knock on wood>, I am childless. I have wanted to be a father for a long time now, in my mind I have been ready. Everyone i knew had that joy in their lives of being a father, a provider, a guide and influence on a human beings life. Now its my turn. As I think back, I always thought that my first emotion would be joy. But, when I got that phone call on my way to work, 10 minutes after I left my wife sleeping in bed, I must admit that the first thing i felt was fear. Believe me the joy is there, lots of it, but alot of things are running through my mind this 3 days after I got the best news of my life thus far.
I think the problem is that 1, I read to damn much. Another opne is that I listen to too many stories. I think about where I read that 2 out of 10 pregnancies end in miscarriage before month 3. Then there is the myth that with every birth, there is also a death. The first thing i did after getting the "good" news was the put my seatbelt on(which I do 85% of the time anyway) cause don't want that death to be my own. I have 2 stepchildren already, I don't want them to feel any different when the baby comes as far as my attention or behavior torwards them. I love both of them as my own but it will be different, 1 because this is a baby, and 2 because it is really a life that I had a part in bringing into the world.
I beleive in my heart that I will be a good Dad, and that I am capable of raising a son or daughter well but I am still scared. Right now I beleive that the fear is coming through more visable than the joy. I think that as the months go on, the joy will begin to out shine everything else.
Posted at 08:24 pm by puresincerity
Saturday, July 09, 2005
Its been a few days since the last post(sorry), but here we go...
Alright, let me get on my soap box for a few and touch on a subject that kind of blows me. While not personally in the situation myself, this child support thing has gotten out of hand. Now, before you ladies prepare to have me hung, hear me out. First, child support is just that for support of the child, not the parents hair, nails, wordrobe, etc. Not to feed, cloth, and support the children you have with another man. Before you blow a gasket. we all know that it happens. Some men out here are paying child support through the courts simply because of the type of relationship that the parents have, not because the father is some sort of "deadbeat" that doesn't want to take care of his children. You have young men and old alike who, just because things didn't work out between them and the mother, sometimes in excess of 50% of their paychecks are being taken for support. The problem I have is that alot of these men would gladly spend any amount necessary to make sure that there chold has what is needed. Its just something about having the courts involved in a black mans life and in his pockets that is just not right, if it doesn't have to be that way.
Lyfe has a song on his Cd talking about what he went through. Because the woman chose to get on welfare. He owes them all that back money, not her. i have a friend who pays at least 400 a month in child support, pays for daycare, buys 95% of the clothes for the child, has the child every weekend. Where is the 400 going? Not 2 rent, cause she lives rent free at home. Not for milk, cheese, or cereal, cause she gets WIC. But on the flip side she always looks fly, nails done, hair done, always out kicking it on the weekend. Oh let me add, she don't have a job. GREEDY! I will admit that before he bedded her, he should have seen how trife she was but still...It takes 2... so it should be on both parents to take care of the child. Also, I think that more fathers should attempt to have custody of their children. If you have to pay a small fortune for " support" then you might as well have the child with you, if you can.
Don't take this the wrong way, because there are a whole lot of dudes out there who wanna act like they don't have kids. in that case ladies, if you need help and that man is not trying to give any, do what you gotta do. Just don't try to punish a man, or use a child as leverage. Denying a man the opportunity to see his child because of something between you and him ladies is wrong. Also, allow a man the chance to do for his child before the law gets involved.
If u guys/ladies don't mind, I have a few questions that i would like your opinion on...
1. If a woman with kids get married to another man, should she continue to get child support from the the father?
2. Lets just say that Cyndi has 2 children, one by James, a regular middle calss working man. The other by Khalil, an up and coming Entertainer. Should they both pay the same in child support? I mean obviously James can't afford as much as Khalil. If James is paying 800 a month and his little one's needs are more than taken care of, wouldn't the child by Khalil be good with aroun the same amount? I understand that Khalil can afford much more and his child deserves the best, but does he need it.?
3. Some ladies feel that if a man doesn't want to take care of his kids, fine. But in that case he also forfeits all right and privledges of a father. Plus, as soon as the child is old enough to comprehend, they will know that "daddy " chose not to be in your life. How do yall feel about that?
Posted at 04:17 pm by puresincerity
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Saturday, July 02, 2005
We all deserve to be catered to
I'm a huge music fan. I honestly believe that you can tell a person how you feel and get a good message across using music. Destiny Child has a song on their newest CD called "Cater 2 U". I'm sure that we all have heard it, and I also know that everyone has cable these days so you also saw or heard about the performance of said song on the BET awards this past week. So my question is, is there anything wrong with "catering" to your mate? During my various dialouges, discussions, lunchroom chats etc, its mostly the women who seem to take offense to the message behind this song. If it had been a song by men singing about "catering" to a woman's every need then yall would be blasting it in our ear at every possible interval. Me personally , I am all about songs that uplift and support the good brothas out there. Before DC, there was Monica, and Angie Stone, Chante Moore, etc. I guess it really goes back to my personal philosophy that in a relationship, it is each mated responsibility to do what it takes to make sure that the other is happy and satisfied. Yes, I realize that it is not always possible to make your mate happy, but if you are giving your all and get nothing in return, then if it all falls apart then your conscience can be clear that it wasn't your fault. If you are with someone, that you feel doesn't deserve to be "catered" to....something is wrong!
So fellas, when you with your lady, and DC starts singing on the radiom T.V, whatevea, turn that thang up loud so she can hear it. Let her know how you deserve to be treated. Ladies, what are yall scared to do for your man? I'll tell yall a secret, and mind you, I can only speak for good men out there. Someone has got to start it up, get it goin, start to treat him like the king he is, and watch how he begins to treat you. It human nature, no one wants to be outdone. Now Im not sayin be a fool about it though, some niggas just don't deserve it, and on the flip side alot of yall women don't either. If you are with some like that, l feel that you are at a point right now where you need to make a serious decision because everyone deserves to be happy. Don't go out here breakin up with folkz because i said so though cause i will plead the 5th on that azz
And for your viewing pleasure.....Cater 2 U(live from the BET Awards)
Posted at 10:44 pm by puresincerity
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I consider myself to be a big music fan. No, I won't proclaim to be a lover of all music, but i won't knock it til i've given it a liste or two. # 1 on mylist over all would be R&B, followed by Gospel, and Rap. To sum it all up, if i can find a relation to what is being said then its all right with me. I'll find a song or 2 and listen to it to the point where I know it front to back, I don't want to listen to anything else. Then after a while, I'll find another. Its usually because another song has gotten me.
Music has a way of touching me with its message. Those are the true entertainers there, the one who can tell me a story with there music. Mary J, now thats a story teller right there boy. The thing about Mary is that, and i hate to admit it but I liked Mary more when she wasn't happy with her life. Now I'm a youngin(28), but I can go further back than Mary on yall. Donnie Hathaway, Sam Cooke, Gladys Knight, Temptations, I'm a student of all of their teachings. Life, is gonna bring some storm in to everyones life. Those entertainers that aren't afraid to testify about the storms that they been in and out of are the ones that I love the most. Currently I am really feeling a young man named Lyfe's CD, his album is just that, a story about his life. He touches on things that all of either go through or know of those that have gone through it . He touches on issues from dating a woman with kids, to being unfaithful, to being hit up for child support. He even talks about crying, and you know especially for us guys is a touchy subject. For those of you that haven't experienced Lyfe, I encourage you to do so immediatly, you will not regret it.
India Arie, Anthony Hamilton, and Van Hunt are a few other teachers that I study under. The music I Love is about real life, real love. Music that talks about the good men and women out here.
On the flip side, I also have mad love for the other popular and unpopular music that is out there. In Houston they have a trademark of "slowing" their music down. Originated by the late DJ Screw, they take the regular songs the we hear and slow them down. I got hook on this style of R&B , and rap music around 2000, bought the mix CD's , the underground artist CD's, etc. Now the time has come for these originators to finally get their due. Artists like Lil FLip, Mike Jones, Slim Thugg, Paul Wall who are new on the scene, I been listening to them for years now. Do your research, you will see....
Back to what I was saying gimmie the music that that will talk to me, the music that i can have a drink to, that music that will put something on your head, on your heart. Gimmie that shit to make you say "DAMN!" or "I know thats Right"
Posted at 08:40 am by puresincerity
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Saturday, June 25, 2005
Welcome to my Crowded Solitude .I am the one and only Puresincerity(I better be )What I am attempting to do is create a place where real folks can drop by and say whats on their mind. I personally am intrigued by the way people think, mainly those who think different than me. Also, I also enjoy the deep, heated , adrenaline filled dialouge that goes on between men and women on certain topics. Throughout the duration of this Blog, you canbest believe that I am gonna ask some drama filled questions about life and how it works. Now yall don't be shy either, I want the whole truth and "nuthingbutthetruth" aight. If yall got some issues to throw into the ring, bring em on. Child support, how soon to have sex, who pays for the date... I want issues yall. I want to know what on the mind of my peers. lets face it, you all have some wild outlook on life. That is what makes dialogue between us interesting.
Posted at 12:21 pm by puresincerity
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